Hello there! Let me guess why you’re here…you’re planning your wedding and the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic is freaking you out and you’re not sure what to do. To begin with, don’t worry, Casey Fatchett Photography is here to help! I’ve helped nearly 600 couples in the last 20 years plan their weddings. I regularly put my problem solving skills to good use and this is no exception. It’s just going to be very different.
I have been working with my clients to help them adjust to the new normal and I want to share the same information here, with you, on my blog, so that I can help as many couples as possible.
First things first – take a deep breathe. Now let it out. Good job.
This situation is constantly changing, and it is very difficult to say what will be happening a month from now, let alone next week. I will be updating this post as things change. So feel free to check back and see if there are updates. To paraphrase one epidemiologist, we are on the life raft, but we are a long way from dry land.
Take another deep breathe. Now let it out.
There will be life after the COVID-19 pandemic, and I want your wedding to be a part of it. We must have hope that will be the case.
Now, one more deep breathe. Let it out. Okay, ready to get into this?
I’m planning on getting married in 2020, what should I do?
If you’re planning a wedding for April, May, or June – well, you should definitely be looking at postponing or rescheduling your wedding as soon as possible.
Currently, public health officials are recommending that all gatherings of 10 or more people be postponed until after the end of April. The CDC is also advising that gatherings of 50 or more people be postponed until after May.
What does this mean for my wedding?
Well, as I said before this is a very fluid situation. The restrictions you see now may stay in place longer than is being stated now. It is better to be safe than sorry and stay in touch with your vendors if your wedding is in say June or July, and talk to them about the potential of rescheduling. The next few weeks (the month of April) will be very telling, but it will always be easier to reschedule now than if you wait until it is just before your wedding date.
It’s Okay to Be Upset and Sad
Your wedding is an emotional event under NORMAL circumstances. Throw in a worldwide pandemic shutting everything down changing your plans for your dream weddings, and you’ve just upped the emotional factor by a thousand.
It’s okay to be sad, and to grieve the wedding you were planning. That’s okay. It is totally fine to feel angry, sad, or just unsure because of your lack of control of the situation. It’s normal for you to feel this way, and a lot of other people are feeling this way too. If you aren’t already part of any online wedding communities of couples planning their wedding, it might be time to join one. That way you will know you are not alone.
Talk to People Close to You
Reach out to your friends and family to talk about how you’re feeling. I highly recommend the app Marco Polo. You can send quick video messages and you don’t have to schedule a time for you to be on a call together. You can even create groups – so your whole family or wedding party can send video messages to each other.
But also be sure to check in with your partner. You’re both going through a lot emotionally right now and it is important to check in and make sure that you’re on the same page.
I’m Not a Doctor, But I Once Played One on TV
It was in a commercial…no joke. Anyway, I am not a medical expert or an epidemiologist. I recommend that you get your information from the following organizations:
Keep track of the guidelines and how they might effect your plans. They’re the experts and they will know better than if you ask a wedding vendor what they think the situation will be like in a month. That being said…
So what should you be doing if you just recently got engaged and haven’t set a date yet? Well, I would suggest looking at dates in 2021. The last 4 months of 2020 are most likely getting booked up very quickly for most vendors with couples who are rescheduling their events, unless you can be VERY flexible with your wedding date.
Remember, the longer you give yourself to plan, the more time you have to change things if the situation evolves. Also, it takes the pressure off of having to worry about whether or not you’ll be able to go forward with your event as planned.
Managing that Wedding Stress
When the world hasn’t been upended by a pandemic, wedding planning can be an anxiety ridden process. You can click here to check out my tips for alleviating or eliminating as much wedding planning stress as possible.
You can probably benefit from these tips now more than ever.
Please feel free to share this article with anyone you know who is getting married, and, if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me! I will do my best to answer them for you.